Supplies
I just finished Julia Camron's book, "Supplies". She describes the book as " A trouble shooting guide for creative difficulites." I found it an interesting and helpful look at the people who creative people deal with in their lives. There are the encouraging people, Fuse Lighters, Booster Rockets, and Angels. Then there are the more numerous, discouraging or destructive people, Wet-Blanket Matdors, Experts, Piggybackrs, Worrywarts, and the Black Gypsy, just to name a few. It is helpful to recognise these people and put a name to them. By naming them it seems to make it easier to deal with them and discount the negative words or tactics that they use.
An example of how this helps. I recently ran into a person who has been encouraging in the past (or at least appeared to be so.) This person started saying some things that at first sounded like encouragement, but had a funny zing to each comment. Since I was reading this book at the time I was able to see just how theis person was using some creavitity destroying manipulations. Their final comment was "Well, I'd wish you luck, (in an upcoming art competition,) but that would give you an unfair advantage." Mixed with the other comments they had given, it was a little obvious this person was bothered by my win of the Quad State show. Well, being able to allow comments like this to role off of your back and not to hold on to them like a precious, stuffed toy, is very freeing. I was able to respond with, "that's OK, I'll wish you luck anyway."
You know, what is also freeing is that I don't have to wory if the person was being spiteful or not. It is most important that I was able to reject all of thier comments as something unuseful and not hold on to them for discouragement or personal mental toture. Know what I mean?
I find that sometimes people can wear different names and be shape shifters. So it is good to recognize when someone who is usualy very helpful, slips on a new mask and temporarily becomes a discourager.
I'll share more about the games that people play on us and that we play on ourselves tomorrow.
